I STILL RECOGNIZE HER

The husband knew he could not adequately care for his wife, now in the final stages of Alzheimer’s. He found a compassionate facility, and visited her every day. At noon for lunch.

Not 11:59.
Not 12:01.
Noon. Every day.

Until the day of a minor accident when he found himself in an Emergency Room, his arm being stitched by a nurse as the clock approached the noon hour.

“I need to leave,” he said ill at ease.

“Hold on,” she told him, “we’re not finished here.”

“But I must visit my wife at noon,” he said.

“Well,” she told him gently, “today you can be a little late.”

The man told the nurse the story of his wife and of the facility where she lives and how when he visits she does not even recognize him, does not know who he is. The nurse patted his hand and said, “That’s okay hon. You can relax. If she doesn’t even recognize you, there is no harm in being late this one day.”

“No,” the man insisted. “I need to go. I need to be there at noon. I know she doesn’t recognize me. But I need to be there because I still recognize her.”

Source | as told by Terry Hershey

PONDER AND CONSIDER

Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody’s going to know whether you did it or not. |  Oprah Winfrey

Our character is what we do when we think no one is watching. | H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

For your pursuit of being the best basketball player possible, you should always assume someone is watching and act accordingly. | John Wooden

  • How would your behaviour change if you were no longer recognized?
  • What would you do if no one was watching?
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Author: philipchircop

I'm a Jesuit from Malta, an artist at heart and madly in love with all things beautiful and soulful: music, painting, sculpture, photography, film, theatre, poetry, good company, good food, good wine and more. I believe that beauty is a wonderful entry into the mystery of the God “whose centre is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere.” God can be sensed in all things if and when we engage in a long, loving look at the real that surrounds us. I consider myself a seeker with bottomless curiosity, an eternal student of life, exploring fresh and creative ways to proclaim the Good News in the hope of helping fellow pilgrims and seekers to embrace real and radical changes that will lead to conversion and transformation.

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